In Ways I Never Imagined

 Many of us have gone through phases where we try to bargain with God. You know, the "God just get me out of this one thing this one time and I'll..." 

"Help me pass this test I didn't study for; don't let the teacher remember to call my parents..."

But what happens when we beg Him for something we perceive is good? When we fast and pray, crying out on our knees before Him to heal a broken heart, to fix a broken marriage, to repair a damaged relationship?

After all, it's not like we're begging Him for a new sports car or a lump of cash. No, we're pleading for something that by any stretch of the imagination is a good thing.

So what happens when the answer is no?

Weathering the Storm

And they came to him, and awoke him, saying, Master, master, we perish. Then he arose, and rebuked the wind and the raging of the water: and they ceased, and there was a calm.  And he said unto them, Where is your faith?...Luke 8:24‭-‬25

"Where is your faith?" 

It is a question that still rings out to us 2000 years later. Where is our faith? Is it in jobs, family, government, unemployment benefits?

While it is important for us to provide for our families and take care of them, where is our faith? Are we trusting that job to provide, or are we trusting that when we do what we're supposed and what we can, that God is going to fill in the details?

I know there are many unemployed right now. If you live in Illinois like I do, good luck getting your benefits. But is your faith in those benefits? 

This is a subject that is easy to write about, but harder to put into practice. One of the hardest things I've had to do is trust God that He will protect the hearts and minds of my kids.

Without going into detail, there's a family member actively trying to sway them away from living for the Lord. I have to remember that God loves them more than I do, and trust that He will work in the situation. 

So where are you struggling today?

Where is your faith?

Rejected by the One You Love

Today, this video popped up in my Facebook memories. Back in the summer of 2017, I had gone through the pain and heartache of an unwanted divorce. I was dealing with a lot of hurt and pain stemming from the rejection of one who I loved deeply.

The divorce was finalized in November of 2017. A few months later, as I was scrolling through Facebook, I came across this video. To this day, I don't even know why it showed up in my feed. It wasn't from anyone I was connected with or following. But it carried with it the message that I needed.

Take a couple minutes to watch the video, and then stick around for some closing thoughts.

Book Review: The Life Saving Divorce

The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships by Gretchen Baskerville

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


It's easy to have an opinion on divorce. It's easy to tell people what you think Scripture says about divorce. It's easy to silently judge or question people who divorce.

Until you go through it yourself.



In Chapter 3, Gretchen blows away 27 of the oft-believed myths surrounding divorce. Even though my divorce is a few years in the rear-view mirror, this chapter was extremely helpful, because the doubts love to creep in.

"Did I try hard enough? Did I do everything I could have? Does it really 'take two to tango'? Am I really responsible for my spouse's unfaithfulness?"

Chapter 3 could be an entire book by itself (warning, it is long!) but it will help to dispel many of the myths you may have believed or had people tell you about yourself.

Chapter 6 takes a very in-depth look at just what does Scripture really teach about divorce. It was very informative. Much of the information I already knew, but I also learned some interesting facts about the Jewish and Roman cultures of the day and how those would have influenced the early churches views.

I do want to say very clearly that the author is not justifying willy-nilly divorce for petty reasons such as "we just don't love each other." Gretchen has put a lot of work into this book and hopefully it will help people...maybe even save a life.


(I received an Advance Reader Copy in return for a fair review. At present time, I have read only three chapters and am basing this review on those chapters. I intend to read the remaining chapter and will update the review upon completion of the book.)



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Don't Go Fishing!

Ironically, I had intended to make this a follow-up to my last post. But, as I look at the calendar, I realize it is exactly one month since I last posted. This usually happens...life slows down during the Thanksgiving/Christmas/New Year's holidays, I start writing again, and then life takes back off and suddenly I find myself neglecting any kind of personal writing.

But over the last few days I've found myself ruminating on the past. I recently had a major "anniversary milestone" with regards to the whole divorce process, and unfortunately I have to admit it took over my thoughts for a while.

Gone Fishin'

Fishing? In January? Sign me up. Would love to be out on a lake stalking some largemouth bass or northern pike, maybe jigging for some walleye. My 16yo and I spent some time in Bass Pro Shop the other day and it definitely got the fishing bug going. Fortunately, it's been a fairly mild winter and we've been able to spend some time outdoors lately, so that helps.

Most people today are all like, "New Year, New Me" but the reality is that "new you" will only last a couple weeks at most. Life changes made solely based on a calendar date are the least likely to take effect.

Why do most people fail at making changes in the new year?